Monday, July 21, 2014
themanicpixienightmaregirl:

I actually ended up getting fired for crying about being harassed.

I was blessed with a fun experience transitioning on the job. That is not the norm however.

themanicpixienightmaregirl:

I actually ended up getting fired for crying about being harassed.

I was blessed with a fun experience transitioning on the job. That is not the norm however.

Sunday, July 20, 2014

twistybramble:

iwiththeredrighthand:

kiriamaya:

doctorgaylove:

Homophobes who say “but the gay lifestyle leads to depression and higher risks of suicide”.

Like really? And why is that? Whose fault do you think that is?

Fundy transmisogynists love “citing” (I use the term loosely, because they never quote it or link to it or even say who was involved) “a Swedish study in 2011” which purportedly shows that trans people who get surgery are at greater risk of suicide than before they started transition. And the thing is, it kinda does say that, but (1) it acknowledges that transition can relieve dysphoria, (2) it says that transition is insufficient to treat trans folks’ mental health issues, not useless in doing so, and most importantly, (3) it does not show a causal link between transition and suicidality.

What the study is saying, in other words, is that transition is not enough to heal all our hurts, and that we need much more help and support than just that. Which. Pretty much any trans person (except maybe truscum, I guess) could tell you that. Any trans woman certainly could. After all, when we transition, we lose entire support systems, put ourselves at higher risk of unemployment/homelessness, and become recognized as social pariahs everywhere we go. No freaking wonder our mental health can get worse.

Fundies (and TERFs, and other enemies) would have you believe it’s because we’ve “become” trans, and that’s fucking with our heads. The reality is that fundies (and TERFs, and other enemies) are the ones fucking with our heads, making it next to impossible for us to live authentically and then telling us it’s our fault for even trying.

Don’t be fooled.

There’s another study done in Australia that stated something similar about LGBT persons experiencing greater amounts of depression and abuse (that they found was apparently not connected to social pressures or ostracization).

An acquaintance of mine (a newly ordained pastor) linked this on facebook.  I figured I’d seen enough of this and I spend a couple hours researching and making an argument.

Hours later I have my references and claims ready (and I’m all pumped thinking I’m like debigotizer) I reply in the comments trying to be respectful and not attacking, just saying things like ‘hey, I see that this says ____, but that’s most likely tied to ____, actually’.

And the fucker unfriends me without a response.

I’ve seen a couple of people citing the Swedish study lately as “proof” that SRS is harmful. Worth noting that the authors appear to have anticipated this interpretation and were very explicit about why their work doesn’t support it. From the “Strengths and Limitations” section:

"…the current study is only informative with respect to transsexuals persons health after sex reassignment; no inferences can be drawn as to the effectiveness of sex reassignment as a treatment for transsexualism. In other words, the results should not be interpreted such as sex reassignment per se increases morbidity and mortality. Things might have been even worse without sex reassignment.”

That passage makes it much easier to point and laugh at the transphobes who either didn’t bother reading the paper before citing, or (worst case) are deliberately misrepresenting it.

A common reaction to trauma is to repress or delay the sensation the pain until the trauma has passed. This is something I like to call the marathon effect, though that phrase is misleading; the physiological process going on here is different from delayed-onset muscle soreness one would experience after a marathon. I just use the phrase as a metaphor. The effect I’m talking about is actually tied to the body’s fight/flight/freeze response. People don’t feel the pain of a traumatic event until their brain has decided the event is over and the danger has passed. It doesn’t really matter if the danger is physical or psychological, as the brain is terrible at differentiating the two.

The numbness of the fight-or-flight response is an effective survival method in the short-term, as it allows a person to focus on dealing with immediate danger. After the danger is gone, the person can then emotionally and physically heal the damage. When a person suffers from long-term trauma, however, the pain accumulates over time. When a trauma lasts for years or even decades, the locked-up pain can become unbearable.

Dysphoria is an ongoing trauma that is only relieved with transition and, in some cases, surgery. Relieving the pain of dysphoria often unlocks age-old pain that has been numbed out in order to survive. Trans people with a large support network of loved ones, financial stability, and a healthy family history can often endure this period with relative ease. They can fall, because they have a cushion to fall upon.

Trans people who are poor, isolated, or have a history of abuse, however, are more likely to get overwhelmed by opening the floodgates in recovery. Absent financial stability, they can crumble under pressure if anything threatens their housing, or if medical complications happen that they can’t afford to treat. If they are isolated, they have fewer people they can talk to openly about their pain. If they have a history of abuse, they are more likely to beat themselves up instead of seeking help. There is no cushion to soften their fall. They hit the ground hard.

Trans people face hateful treatment from TERFs, Christian conservatives, transphobic cis gay and lesbian people, pretty much the entire mainstream media, and most of society in general. We are more likely to be isolated, especially post-transition. We are more likely to live in poverty because of discrimination. We are more likely to be abused by family, because most of society encourages abusing trans and gender-variant children. And that’s the “good” people. The abuse from the “good” people means that truly vile serial abusers can get away with even more when they target trans people, and trans children in particular.

All that pain adds up. All that pain is often released into the wild post-transition or post-surgery. Without a circle of loving friends and family, without stable financial footing, trans people can fall through the cracks when they’re at their most vulnerable, exposed state. Then the abusers say it’s our fault for the pain heaped on us by others, that it’s our fault for being ostracized until we have no support left to cope. They throw salt on the wound, and then when we seek help, they throw acid. Very few arguments come as close to exposing the true intent of transphobes as “surgery makes you more suicidal”. Don’t mistake it for concern—they want the death to happen. They just wish it happened sooner.

Thursday, July 17, 2014

Sex is the Same Thing as Gender, and it is Socially Constructed. Not Science

regurgitation-imminent:

amydentata:

audscratprophetlilith:

baeddeltrender:

So I’m not sure if this will make it easier for people to understand the idea of sex as a social construct as well as being the same thing as gender as soon as it enters the social sphere but I’m going to try. […]

For clarity’s sake: The OP is not saying that penises are male, but pointing out that declaring penises as “male” is sex/gender, and crappy sex/gender at that.

"Penis" itself is a social construct. There are several types of external genitalia that cannot be easily described as a "penis" or as a "vagina", and are arbitrarily categorized as some variation on one of these two things (or in some instances, somewhat incorrectly referred to as "cloacal"). […]

Yup. As far as biology is concerned, the only way to be a male is to be a father already, and the only way to be a female is to be a mother already.

And if it isn’t glaringly obvious, “mother” and “father” are themselves steeped in gender.

'Male' and 'Female' aren't even socially useful, either as sex + gender or just referring to sex, because extremely few men are supremely manly men who fulfil all of the tenets of the biological markers we use to refer to 'men', (and same thing s/man/woman). We just kinda assume that if someone seems like they fit in the male category, that all the other tenets hold true. I have no sweet fucking clue if I have XY chromosomes. I've never been tested. There's a pretty good chance of it, sure, just like there's a pretty good chance that I have a male hormone profile and male androgen receptors, and male this and male that, but the chance of me having 100% of those things is almost 0%. And there are traits where I know I am feminine or otherwise not manly.

We just kinda … overlook all of those problems and holes and end with a system that means much less than we say it does.

Unless you’re read as trans, in which case you are scrutinized and everything that doesn’t “add up” is used against you (and in many cases, so are the things that do add up).

Having some intense thoughts after connecting sex assignment at birth to the anti-abortionists’ “potentially pregnant” labeling. Women, behave this way because you could become pregnant at any moment and ideally should become pregnant like a normal woman because that’s your job.

Children, behave this way because you could end up producing these gametes, and ideally should produce them like a normal adult because it’s your job to conform to this norm, which actually bears no relation to anything important in a social context, especially not at your age.

I feel sick to my stomach.

Sex is the Same Thing as Gender, and it is Socially Constructed. Not Science

audscratprophetlilith:

baeddeltrender:

So I’m not sure if this will make it easier for people to understand the idea of sex as a social construct as well as being the same thing as gender as soon as it enters the social sphere but I’m going to try.

A penis is just a penis. That’s biology right there. It tells us that this is a bodily organ which does things for the purposes of reproduction and is a sight of pleasure stimulation.

A penis is male. That’s sex/gender.

As soon as you assign a social value to body parts you aren’t talking biology anymore you’re talking sex/gender. Among humans the term female is no more real or absolute than woman. Sex is not an immutable scientific fact among humans because it can not be separated from the social values we ascribe to sex. Social values are not science. They are not fact. They have real consequences and material effects but they are not indisputable truths. They are not science.

This is why the idea of sex is between your legs, gender is between your ears is a fallacious statement which really only benefits half of trans people. The reason it only benefits half of us is because only half of us are not harmed by this notion.

Even without getting into my life as an intersex person I can tell you right now that calling my body male anything is useless. It does not help me with medicine. It does not accurately describe how my body is shaped. It does not accurately depict my upbringing nor my life. It does not accurately depict anything about me and that includes my genitals. My body does not function as male. It is not male. This is because male is inherently tied to social ideas that are fallacious. The only thing calling me male does is hurt me.

For clarity’s sake: The OP is not saying that penises are male, but pointing out that declaring penises as “male” is sex/gender, and crappy sex/gender at that.

"Penis" itself is a social construct. There are several types of external genitalia that cannot be easily described as a "penis" or as a "vagina", and are arbitrarily categorized as some variation on one of these two things (or in some instances, somewhat incorrectly referred to as "cloacal").

At what point does a penis become a so-called “micropenis”? What is the explicit differentiating factor? There is no single marker. When does a “micropenis” become an “enlarged clit”? Also no clear-cut answer. At what point does a penis with hypospadias stop being a penis? If you ask some doctors, it’s always a penis, even at the most extreme degree of the condition when the person is likely to have partially-formed “female” internal anatomy.

Some people claim “male” and “female” are scientific terms that refer specifically to production of gametes. That argument falls apart pretty quickly though, because people will still call a guy who’s lost his testes “male”, or a woman who’s had her ovaries removed “female”. Hospitals and governments don’t have a “sexless” option waiting in line just in case someone stops being able to produce gametes.

People are assigned a sex before they are even able to produce gametes. Some of those people will never produce gametes. What we are then referring to with sex is expected or potential gamete production. Much in the same way anti-abortionists think of women as existing in a lifelong state of potential pregnancy. All of these labels are projections of societal expectations, not factual accounts.

These categorization systems are human-created models. They do not describe reality, and they do not account for its complexity. They function to simplify a very messy system that isn’t fully understood. However, in performing that simplification and enshrining it as “common sense fact”, unnecessary suffering is introduced into people’s lives when they don’t fit this model, and indeed even into the lives of those who do (or at least appear to) fit the model.

Monday, July 14, 2014

safeword:

missjessicasmith:

graculus:

hey i found this shop on etsy that does swimwear for trans women and its really affordable and cute!

hell yeah, gonna check this out

boost for swim skirts

There are also leotards and swimwear for trans girl children. What an amazing beautiful world we live in where these things exist. Think of the girls with supportive parents that can do mundane things like go to swimming or gymnastics or dance without it being a big deal. All the things I wish I could’ve done as a little girl. It makes me tear up.

Tuesday, July 8, 2014
themanicpixienightmaregirl:

It’s the number one reason why cis people like having us as friends.

"I’m going to make you into whatever is most convenient for my given gendered political stance/personal grievance directed at an entire gender/closeted fears about my own identity"

themanicpixienightmaregirl:

It’s the number one reason why cis people like having us as friends.

"I’m going to make you into whatever is most convenient for my given gendered political stance/personal grievance directed at an entire gender/closeted fears about my own identity"

Wednesday, July 2, 2014

lisaquestions:

I find it intriguing how when trans women claim ownership over our lives and bodies, that we’re frequently called delusional for doing so.

Like the social construction of gender and sex basically says that women don’t get to own our bodies to begin with. And that trans women who assert self-determination are declared insane and incapable of comprehending reality when we say “this is who we are, this is what we are called.”

We are only allowed to name ourselves without conflict when our names for ourselves agree with the our abusive oppressors.

And like this is totally ideological. I saw a truscum trans guy with male on his fucking about saying that biological sex is an immutable reality and trans women who disagree are setting the whole trans movement back by several years. It’s selectively applied to trans women to control us.

The mainstream media’s “trapped in a man’s body” rhetoric just drives the point home that nobody believes women have the right to own our own bodies. The flip of this, “trapped in a woman’s body,” is never used in the MSM. There’s a reason.

Sunday, June 29, 2014

churchrat:

For Immediate Release: June 29, 2014

Trans and Queer Activists Beaten and Arrested During SF Pride

San Francisco’s Mission District – At least six people were arrested on Saturday night after a protest against a prison-themed Kink.com party.

The six included a National Lawyers’ Guild Legal Observer; several protesters were clubbed and beaten to the ground after a protest numbering several hundred marched to the Armory at 14th and Mission Streets in the Mission District, from a 10 p.m. gathering at the 16th Street BART Station. Two of the arrestees have been released; four are still in custody as of 4 a.m. Sunday morning.

The promoters of the Kink.com party mockingly invited people to “get arrested” and enjoy “solitary confinement, showers, jailbreak, love and lust, freedom and confinement.” The protesters argued that the party was a crude event that profited off of the brutality suffered by trans women and gender nonconforming people of color, who are so often funneled into the prison industrial complex.

“This is a travesty—on the anniversary of the famed Stonewall Rebellion, where trans and queer people rose up against police brutality, that six people would be arrested for protesting an SF Pride-sanctioned party that celebrated state violence and prison rape,” said Mary Lou Ratchet, a Gay Shame (www.gayshamesf.org) representative. The march was organized by Gay Shame and LAGAI (www.lagai.org).

This is the face of assimilation. Happy now, Gay Inc?

Check out Gay Shame’s call to action:

take action:

Please join us in continuing and advancing the struggle for liberation from the prision industrial complex by calling in to the SF DA’s office to demand that the charges against Rebecca, Prisca, and Sarai are dropped.

Please call in to either
(415) 553-1751
(415) 553-1754

basic ask:

"We demand that the DA’s office Drop the Charges against Rebecca Luisa Ruiz-Lichter, Prisca Carpenter, Sarai Robles-Mendez."

Please feel free to add any additional comments and spread the word.


Petitioning Office of San Francisco District Attorney George Gascón Drop the Charges against Rebecca Ruiz-Lichter, Prisca Carpenter, Sarai Robles-Mendez

Saturday, June 28, 2014

I like the people side of Pride, but not the organizations, sponsors, or pretty much anything else.

Can we do a Pride apart from Pride? Personal Pride parties? Local Pride marches? Something that doesn’t involve Budweiser and a number of large banks that turned a profit by destroying the global economy?

I sit here in a really comfy suburban home with wonderful roommates and I think, is comfort always good? When does comfort work against my beliefs? When does it encourage me to compromise my ideals? When does it stop being comfort and become domestication of the worst connotation? I know comfortable living space/radical politics is a false dichotomy. But sometimes it gets really easy to pretend that the outside world is ok when everything within your sphere is nice and cozy.

I wish we all had neural internet connections to the parts of the world that are suffering. I wish politicians physically couldn’t ignore the pain of their constituents. I wish those privileged over others couldn’t barricade themselves from poverty and violence others face. I wish imperialistic countries like the US, from leaders to civilians, couldn’t physically ignore the pain of countries our government controls with arms sales, orchestrated regime changes, and a lack of concern for human rights.

Whether it’s through some future technology or in the present, I wish we were all connected, instead of dissociated away into threads of existence that individually can’t see the whole system without putting massive effort into unlearning the dogma we’re raised with.

I wish Pride could continue its success without distancing itself from its riotous roots. I wish the wealthy GL could step outside their galas and gay cruises for one fucking minute and see what the rest of “their” community is suffering through. I wish wealthy white trans women would stop hoarding their earnings and give back, not even to “their” community of stable white trans women, but to people who don’t have the luxury of money or connections to people with money.

I don’t even necessarily know how to do that myself. It seems the higher up the ladder of kyriarchy you go, the more impoverished people’s sense of community and meaningful action becomes. The harder it gets to step outside that comfy little bubble.

But I feel the edge of it, and I have plenty of pins to pop it.