Saturday, May 24, 2014
2dtransgirlcaptions:

Happens all the time :V

I’ve found it’s a lot better to let someone else do the work, cuz then I don’t have to look at it or think about anything but good sensations.

2dtransgirlcaptions:

Happens all the time :V

I’ve found it’s a lot better to let someone else do the work, cuz then I don’t have to look at it or think about anything but good sensations.

Tuesday, April 29, 2014 Monday, April 28, 2014

amazonchique:

Self-love is one of the most radical acts a hated population can engage in.

I sometimes enjoy what I’ve got even though I’m dysphoric. It’s still weird, just sometimes it’s a weird I find enjoyable. I’m the kind of person that can get off on something because it’s weird. But I still need surgery. And sometimes it’s still really upsetting to be reminded of what I have down there.

Dysphoria isn’t a black-and-white, love-your-junk or hate-your-junk kind of thing. There’s lots of grey area and things can change all over the place over time.

(Source: pixiv.net)

Wednesday, November 27, 2013 Thursday, August 1, 2013

nomderonge said: I was wondering if you could give me any advice on supporting a girlfriend who's struggling a lot w/ dysphoria at the moment? I know that I'm not really ever going to understand exactly what she's going through, but I hate sitting there like a clueless idiot and not having any idea what to say when she's obviously feeling so shitty about herself. :[

I’d give you generic pointers, but dysphoria can manifest in so many different ways that there’s no guarantee anything will work. What might help me feel more secure might feel patronizing or insulting to someone else, for example.

I recommend asking her what you can do to help, if anything. Ask her and listen to her. If she doesn’t know, that’s ok. It may take her time to figure herself out. Don’t force the issue over and over, but let her know you’re willing to listen and learn.

Remember: This isn’t about you feeling like a “clueless idiot”. (Spoiler alert: you aren’t! This is just outside your experience and that’s nothing to feel bad about.) This is about her feelings of dysphoria. It’s great that you care about her and want to help, but make sure your own feelings of helplessness don’t drive you to aggravate the situation.

By talking to her, you may find ways to help. Or it might be the case that there’s nothing you can do to help, and you will just have to accept that for the time being. Whatever you do, don’t think of this as a problem to be “fixed”. It’s simply a condition that is.

I wish you both the best in finding happiness together.

Here’s some other feedback I totally support:

skysquids said:

i would also advise you to make sure you’re taking care of yourself - talk to friends, ask for advice, be open about your feelings. when we take care of others, sometimes we forget to care for ourselves. be good and forgiving to yourself and her.

Thursday, March 7, 2013 Wednesday, February 27, 2013
One of my experiments continues. I scanned my face in 3D with the intent to better illustrate dysphoria, as a companion piece to my most popular post. Preliminary results are promising. I will probably use a higher-quality 3D scan for the final piece; this one has some noise and other weirdness.

One of my experiments continues. I scanned my face in 3D with the intent to better illustrate dysphoria, as a companion piece to my most popular post. Preliminary results are promising. I will probably use a higher-quality 3D scan for the final piece; this one has some noise and other weirdness.

Wednesday, February 13, 2013

(on dysphoria)

Sometimes I try to remove my current anatomy through sheer willpower, as if I can think it into the correct arrangement. Sometimes the dissonance is so strong I want to scream. Sometimes my inner sense of body is so strong I no longer feel what’s physically there. Most of the time, though, I just want it all to be over and done with. In the past. Like a relationship that wasn’t horrible but doomed to fail.

Wednesday, January 2, 2013

kiriamaya:

Y’know, if not for the fact that I have crushing bottom dysphoria, I would probably actually really like my junk. If it were attached to any other woman, I’d think it was cute.

I guess I’ll just have to settle for letting my partners enjoy it… ^___^

Same here! It’s a wonderful lump of flesh. It just has no business being attached to me!

This is why I’m done with the narrative that dysphoria means you hate your body. No, the dysphoria I feel isn’t hate. It’s awkwardness, confusion, displacement, discomfort. I may be angry at the situation, angry at the fact some things can’t be changed, angry at the fact I’m not in a position to fix the stuff that can be fixed, but I’m not angry at my body. It’s a perfectly fine body. There are just parts that are out of place on me specifically.

Besides, it’s not like my body had any say in the matter, either. It’s just doing what it does. It didn’t choose any of this either. So why blame it?

Friday, October 5, 2012

99% of the time, orgasms make me feel like shit

transstingray:

Reblog if this applies to you too?

They’re usually a mixed bag, thanks to conflicted feelings re: sex, flashbacks, and dysphoria. Every now and then, though, the planets align, and when they do, it’s freaking AMAZING. Amazing enough I keep at it in the hopes I get another good one. (They’re happening more often!) Plus, my sex drive is there whether the orgasms work out for me emotionally or not.