this is just something i've been thinking

Tuesday, August 14, 2012

this is just something i’ve been thinking

i have this huge struggle when having conversations with people who are like

“yeah i’m a girl and i’m into vagina”

so i’m like “okay, so like, you’re not really a lesbian, you’re just into vaginas, so like a dude with a vagina would be cool right?”

and they’re like “yeah i guess so but not a girl with a dick”

and i’m just thinking like, okay, sure. whatever i guess. like, i prefer having sex with dudes with beards over dudes without beards

but that doesn’t mean that i would not fuck a guy with a beard it just means that i have preferences

but like, at the same time, it’s kind of fucked that somebody is like “no way couldn’t love you because you have a dick”

and i’ve started thinking, like, maybe people have these issues with penises or vaginas because they think “well, i wouldn’t like the kind of sex that is associated with my genitals and their genitals so therefore i wouldn’t like them”

and it’s like

if we stopped just having one definition of sex, as in, PENETRATION that maybe this wouldn’t be an issue

like

let’s say that two people who had dicks were fucking madly in love but they’re like “oh shit i don’t like having sex with dicks (a.k.a i don’t like dicks in ma butthole)” then it’s like, THERE ARE OTHER WAYS YOU CAN HAVE SEX WITHOUT HAVING TO BE UNCOMFROTABLE WITH YOUR PARTNERS GENITALS

like use some fleshlights on each other

or on yourselves without touching the other person

boom you’ve just had sex with one another

so idk, i mean, on the one hand, i feel like this kind of “i only like vaginas/i only like penises” talk is kind of transphobic, especially when you get those people who are like “i’m a lesbian and i would only ever fuck a girl with a vagina, not a boy with one or a girl with a dick” and it’s like, k dude then you’re actually not a lesbian, but at the same time, i feel like if we changed the definition of sex and started unlearning what we know as sex, then maybe these feelings would change and less people would be scared of sex with genitals that they’re not huge fans of

idk

just thinking

People don’t realize genitals can be stimulated in ways other than the known gendered scripts. The typical known ways for touching a penis weird me out. I usually have to teach partners how I like it because they’ve never done it that way before.

I also think most people have problematic associations of penises with manhood and masculinity that go completely unchecked.