By request, this is an explanation of how I masturbate now. It’s completely changed the experience. For someone as dysphoric as I am, it’s a life-changer.
I discovered that curling my clit inwards prevented erections. From there it was a matter of experimentation until I found this method. There are countless other ways to position your hand, however, so I recommend women who try this experiment! As long as my clit is curled around like in panel 4 I don’t get erect, and there are lots of hot things I can do without triggering massive dysphoria.
It does take getting used to, though, if you’re used to stimulating yourself a certain way. If you’ve masturbated one way your entire life it may take awhile to retrain your body. When I first discovered this technique I couldn’t get off using it. At the end I’d have to go back to the “traditional” method. But now it’s easy. Be patient, be persistent, and experiment. It’s worth it.
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