Amy Dentata

Jun 04

I think I struck a nerve!

Jun 03

Maxine Holloway: PLEASE REPOST: New Kink.com policy disrespects models -

kittystryker:

maxineholloway:

This past month a severe pay cut was given to the women who work at KinkLive.com. They needed to save money and they did it by taking it from the models. Instead of staying quiet and taking what they were willing to give us for our work - we united, stood up for ourselves and are taking…

Just want to signal boost this further. 

Kink.com has built a reputation for being an ethical porn site who puts the models first and is great to work for. Many a battle against pornography, particularly BDSM pornography, has been fought and won because of their model policies, which set a high standard for how porn can be filmed. I personally struggled with that idea of “ethics” due to some of their policies about who they hire, the whole “virginity” debacle, and their depictions of submissive men or trans women, but I just hoped they’d turn it around. Well, this month, one of their models, Maxine Holloway, was fired from KinkLive, their cam website, because she was organizing. She was organizing because Kink decided to change their payout policy for camgirls- from one of the best in the industry to one of the worst, with less than a month’s notice. As someone deeply involved in sex worker rights, this disappointed me, and I imagine it will disappoint you too. Kink.com is a big part of our sex community- it’s time we held them accountable as one. I recommend you vote with your eyes and seek porn elsewhere until they start treating their models like they do their employees.

(emphasis on previous post is mine) There are several areas Kink.com has failed to live up to their self-purported standards. Now is the time for solidarity to show that we, as sex workers, performers, and viewers, actually believe in fair pay, equal representation, and respectful depiction of all sexual communities, and don’t want these values twisted into shallow marketing schemes to push profits.

Re: Dear Housemates of Our Radical Progressive Queer Co-op

einsteinhasthenewbuttons:

LOVE!

I love you more!

aspiring-fires:

This post is so fucking fabulous. I think I may forward my roommates with this because it seems like we all need some of these reminders. (4 out of the 8 of us who live here are currently out of town and people seem only capable of destroying the state of the kitchen, not picking up after themselves then proceed to complain how the kitchen is dirty. If you live with me and you’re reading this, no matter your cleanliness, ~*I LOVE YOU*~ <3<3)

To be fair, the material here was inspired as much by my own behavior as that of roommates I’ve lived with. I’m spreading awareness! That’s my excuse, anyway.

(original post)

missmayinga asked: Just wanted to let you know that you are extremely quality, and I'm slightly upset that I only just discovered you. <33

Thank you! Hopefully I can make up for your previous lack of Amy with more quality :)

mermaid-vision:

autumn-and-eve:

Radscum hate trans women because they think being a woman is inherently misogynistic

omg

Deconstructed out of existence.

robynseggs:

www.transmisogyny.com

Here at transmisogyny dot com, we believe in excluding you while allowing other people to search for their 102-year-old soul mate. It’s just easier on the ol’ database that way.

(via transstingray)

Jun 02

Dear Housemates of Our Radical Progressive Queer Co-op

In general living here has been a wonderful experience, however I have a few issues I would like to address:

1. I believe in our fragrance-free policy, for the sake of allergies and sensitive noses. Speaking of unwanted scents, I also believe in showers. They don’t have to be daily, especially if you’re not physically active. They don’t have to involve shampoo every time. But they should be in your schedule somewhere, preferably after dumpster diving on Tuesdays.
   
   
2. You are absolutely correct that neither shaving nor keeping your legs hairy is empowering to women unless its by choice. However, after you choose to shave your legs in the shower, please also choose to get that hair out of the freaking tub.
   
   
3. While it’s totally true that nobody’s sexual orientation should be enforced or coerced or made into law, we do have an enforced law in the bathroom: When you replace the toilet paper (or more accurately, if you replace the toilet paper), make sure it rolls over the top, not down below. I don’t want to go on a treasure hunt every time I take a poop.

 And please, leave a backup roll. While I fully embrace the clothing-optional atmosphere of our body-positive home, I don’t want to shimmy down the hall with my ass hanging out in an emergency dash for TP.
   
   
4. Invisibility is an important topic: Invisible minorities, femme invisibility, trans man invisibility in the mainstream media… Just because the mainstream can’t see oppression doesn’t mean it isn’t happening. Similarly, just because you can’t see dirt on the stove, doesn’t mean it’s not there. Get those corners, please. Scrub under all the things on the counter. Take them off the counter and clean under them.
   
   
5. It is totally unfair for the “G” and the “L” of the acronym to get their rights first and put off everyone else’s rights for later. On that note, when I ask you to dust the living room, don’t wipe down the two most visible and easy-to-reach surfaces and then call it a day. No surface is dust-free until all surfaces are dust free. Don’t be a slacktivist with the Windex.
   
   
6. I get it–I’m disabled too. You’re out of spoons, I’m out of spoons… However, the kitchen is also out of spoons, and I did the dishes the last ten times. You can see my chore points clearly marked on our handy-dandy co-op whiteboard.
   
   (Which I’ll note, does not keep score for every time someone merely wiped a damp rag across the table one or two times, without even applying pressure or soap, and called that “cleaning”. My feminism will be intersectional or it will be bullshit. Likewise, that wash rag will intersect with soap or else you won’t clean a damn thing.)

By following these simple guidelines, I believe we can create a more loving, supportive, and radical living space for everyone. We might even have a few less cockroaches.

Sincerely,
Amy

(originally posted on my main site)

[general trigger warning] Possible Symptoms Of Complex Trauma In Early Childhood:

sanaa-tamir:

fivelettered:

fromonesurvivortoanother:

hyperphagia:

1. Attachment - Uncertainty about the reliability and predictability of the world, problems with boundaries, distrust and suspiciousness, social isolation, difficulty attuning to other people’s emotional states and points of view, difficulty with perspective taking and difficulty enlisting other people as allies.

2. Biology - Sensorimotor developmental problems, problems with coordination, balance, body tone, difficulties localizing skin contact, hypersensitivity to physical contact, analgesia, somatization, increased medical problems.

3. Affect or emotional regulation - easily-aroused high-intensity emotions, difficulty with emotional self-regulation, difficulty describing feelings and internal experience, chronic and pervasive depressed mood or sense of emptiness or deadness, chronic suicidal preoccupation, over-inhibition or excessive expression of anger and difficulty communicating wishes and desires.

4. Dissociation - distinct alterations in states of consciousness, amnesia, depersonalization and de-realization and two or more distinct states of consciousness, with impaired memory for state-based events.

5. Behavioral control - poor modulation of impulses, self-destructive behavior, aggressive behaviour, sleep disturbances, eating disorders, substance abuse, oppositional behavior, excessive compliance, pathological self-soothing behaviors, difficulty understanding and complying with rules and communication of traumatic past by reenactment in day-to-day behaviour or play (sexual, aggressive, etc.).

6. Cognition - difficulties in attention regulation and executive functioning, problems focusing on and completing tasks, difficulty planning and anticipating, learning difficulties, problems with language development, lack of sustained curiosity, problems with processing novel information, problems with object constancy, problems understanding own contribution to what happens to them, problems with orientation in time and space, acoustic and visual perceptual problems, impaired comprehension of complex visual-spatial patterns.

7. Self-concept - lack of a continuous and predictable sense of self, low self-esteem, feelings of shame and guilt, generalized sense of being ineffective in dealing with one’s environment, belief that one has been permanently damaged by the trauma, poor sense of separateness, disturbances of body image and shame and guilt.

http://www.aaets.org/article174.htm

looking at this is affirming and terrible at the same time

i have a lot of these, which worries me. i think i just had a general snap around 8 and don’t remember much before that.

I have… most of these. :|

There’s maybe one or two I don’t have.

sirousagimoon:

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